Fearless Yesterday

Habits are not one and done.

Neither are character traits.

They are daily decisions. We might wish that choosing to have enthusiasm yesterday would characterize us as enthusiastic next week. 🤔

Slap it on the resume, like a certification. Right? Put it on LinkedIn. That’d be wonderful.

Unfortunately, it doesn’t work that way.

Our perceived character and habits are a dynamic, ever-changing evaluation of how we conduct ourselves in every scenario. Helping the old lady carry her groceries this morning will mean nothing to the flight attendant we piss off next week.

Recently, I made a big decision to leave the college basketball coaching ranks (I’ll add: in good standing), and that was a “fearless” decision. I had a vision for myself. I had to make a change if I wanted to achieve that. So against the conventional wisdom and advice, I gave it up.

“I am FEARLESS!” – Me (that day)

Yesterday, I realized that every decision since then, I’ve made with fear in my heart. I’d mistaken the consistent, mindful approach that it takes to live fearlessly as something we can be certified in once and then carry with us, like a badge.

What qualified us as fearless, today, only truly proves one thing:

That we have the same capacity to live that fearlessly again, tomorrow…

If we consciously choose to.



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5 Quotes on the Bedroom Wall of a Mercer Basketball Player

Here are the 5 quotes that hung on handmade posters all over my bedroom for years, and are still hanging in my garage now, on the plywood wall between my stand-up work table and my pull-up bar. They may mean very little to you. They may change your life. If even one person experiences the latter, this post was worth it. I hope they spark a fire in you like they did me. After reading this, tell me your inspiring habits, I would love to read about/share them. #masteryourcraft


How bad do you want it?

I’ve been quoting this with my little brother, James, who plays basketball at Ohio University, for years. So, maybe Eric Thomas heard me screaming it once and decided it’d be good content. I don’t know. It’s also the first tattoo James and I got together. Left hip.

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Savor a Blessing

Unless I forget to brush my teeth, each night I savor a blessing.

By attaching something that I struggle to make routine (pondering gratitude) to an act that I do every day (brushing my teeth), consistency with the latter becomes practical.

Think hard on your day for just one minute or two. How fortunate were you today? By your standards? By the standards of a homeless child? By the standards of a woman widowed by war? What blessings do you have to be thankful for? If you cannot find even one, your perspective is probably out of wack. Adjust.

Think about how wonderful a life you live, that blessings, maybe small, come daily, and rarely do you have to sacrifice comfort and convenience unless you choose to.

Some will never know the blessing of choice, or the blessing of free thought.

Revel in that while you cook dinner tonight, or during a shower, or what have you.

Brush your teeth, savor a blessing.

True Impact

Nobody ever gets an accurate reading of their contribution to the world.

Did people applaud you? Will they hold you in higher regard?

There are no hard statistics on true impact.

You’ll never see a graph or chart that depicts it.

When you die, the real imprint you’ve left behind will never be quantifiable.

How far down the line will one act of kindness go? Will the elementary school kid that you coached in hoops become an NBA star one day? Will that NBA star fund a neighborhood development program back where he grew up? Will that neighborhood produce a morally sound mother that births a world leader who eventually solves our sustainability crisis and saves the planet?

One small deed done yesterday might change the world 200 years from now, but nobody is going to give you the credit.

For generations to come, your acts of kindness, your courage, are like a stone plunging into a lake.

The initial splash depends on the size of the stone, but the real impact is in how far the ripples will span.

You’ll be at the bottom of the lake before the last wave brushes the shoreline.

There’s no glory in it for you.

Yet, oddly enough, we all know and feel that it’s the right thing to do:

to serve others.

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I have to do this

Are you a “high achiever”? A “go-getter”?

Do you have to-do lists longer than The Pan-American Highway?

Heavy eyelids?

The self-talk usually goes something like, “I want this so bad. I have to do this.”

Most people quit at this point. But you won’t. You’re an animal. You’re a machine! You’ll never quit!!

You just set the track record for the first lap of the 1600m run.

Though, hmm, nobody ever won the gold because of a fast ‘Lap 1’. Now what?

How do you follow-through on goals or drag on when you’re exhausted? Perspective always helps.

I don’t need to give you stories of the rampant poverty all over our planet.

You don’t HAVE-TO-DO anything.

You GET-TO-DO it.

That alone could be the elixir to your anxiety.

This should apply to some 90+% of Americans, as we are majorly above the poverty level in comparison to most human beings on earth.

Be the GET-TO-DO type of person.

Now, go. Do.


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I love you,



10,000 Spectacular Stories

Patience, resilience, and frequent engagement. That, and several years of working at it, are what it takes to be great at your craft.

Take a great writer, for example (not me).

To become a master writer, one has to write. Over. And over. And over.

“The greats weren’t great because at birth they could paint, the greats were great because they paint a lot.”  – Macklemore

A writer might need to write 10,000 spectacular stories before some 100 of them connect, which might be good enough to gather, organize, and form into a book.

Like the ivy on Stone Row at Bard College, your craft must both engulf, and symbiotically make beautiful, your entire existence. If your work is not a reflection of you, it is not your work.

10,000 of your worth-being-told stories before you get 1 book.

Total immersion.

Start writing.