Fearless Yesterday

Habits are not one and done.

Neither are character traits.

They are daily decisions. We might wish that choosing to have enthusiasm yesterday would characterize us as enthusiastic next week. 🤔

Slap it on the resume, like a certification. Right? Put it on LinkedIn. That’d be wonderful.

Unfortunately, it doesn’t work that way.

Our perceived character and habits are a dynamic, ever-changing evaluation of how we conduct ourselves in every scenario. Helping the old lady carry her groceries this morning will mean nothing to the flight attendant we piss off next week.

Recently, I made a big decision to leave the college basketball coaching ranks (I’ll add: in good standing), and that was a “fearless” decision. I had a vision for myself. I had to make a change if I wanted to achieve that. So against the conventional wisdom and advice, I gave it up.

“I am FEARLESS!” – Me (that day)

Yesterday, I realized that every decision since then, I’ve made with fear in my heart. I’d mistaken the consistent, mindful approach that it takes to live fearlessly as something we can be certified in once and then carry with us, like a badge.

What qualified us as fearless, today, only truly proves one thing:

That we have the same capacity to live that fearlessly again, tomorrow…

If we consciously choose to.



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10,000 Spectacular Stories

Patience, resilience, and frequent engagement. That, and several years of working at it, are what it takes to be great at your craft.

Take a great writer, for example (not me).

To become a master writer, one has to write. Over. And over. And over.

“The greats weren’t great because at birth they could paint, the greats were great because they paint a lot.”  – Macklemore

A writer might need to write 10,000 spectacular stories before some 100 of them connect, which might be good enough to gather, organize, and form into a book.

Like the ivy on Stone Row at Bard College, your craft must both engulf, and symbiotically make beautiful, your entire existence. If your work is not a reflection of you, it is not your work.

10,000 of your worth-being-told stories before you get 1 book.

Total immersion.

Start writing.

One Inch

Inches matter.

Take a single step.

Write down a late night thought.

Phone an old friend.

Read 2 pages in a book.

Drink 1 less beer.

Go to sleep 1 hour earlier.

If you can’t run a mile, run down the street and back.

If you can’t be joyful to everyone you interact with, just be joyful to 1 person each day.

Do not be intimidated by your ideals. Like a building is a culmination of bricks, your progress is a culmination of small choices. From where you are now, to the future you desire, is just a series of progressional inches.

It is easier to be consistent (which matters) when you don’t expect too much of yourself.


Inches matter.

“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years go. The second best time is now.”

– Chinese Proverb

Love you all.



New Years: Effective Frame of Mind

What are you asking yourself in 2018?

Some people make resolutions. Lists. Some commit to a diet, or a workout plan, or a shift in values.

Those are wonderful.

They’re usually averagely effective, however, without the proper mindset.

It is only minimally correlated to the plans made or the goals set.

It is about whether or not you are prepared to make changes at all.

Where is your head at?

Are you willing to sacrifice?

Are you willing to humbly address your short-comings?

Are you willing to make changes?

This year, focus your lens on those questions first, and make sure that you can answer them, before you “go Paleo” or buy a gym membership.


Oh, by the way, it is the year 2 0 1 8 .

Take a moment to think about what it means to be alive right now, at this time.

Be awesome in 2018. I love you all.


Opportunity Not Taken

Individual opportunities are TIME-SENSITIVE and FINITE.

They come and go quickly, like lightning. The difference? We’ve debunked the myth about lightning never striking in the same spot twice. Opportunity, on the other hand, is one and done.

Bad news: An opportunity not taken does not have a neutral effect. It is a net loss. After 5 years of not acting on opportunities, you will not break even. It is failure. The sum of consistent bad decisions lands you somewhere short of your desired outcome. Maybe it’s worth lowering the expectations that you created for yourself. Maybe not. Nonetheless, we all have an ideal lifestyle that we aim for. Every time lightning strikes and you don’t find a way to bottle it, your future, better-self, winces in agony.

Good news: The flow of opportunities is never-ending. While no one opportunity will ever resurface a second time the same, it’s purposeless to dwell on having missed a single one. There are fresh opportunities sandwiched between each passing moment of our busy lives. Your next opportunity might be more powerful than the previous. It also might not be. Opportunity is one of the most uncertain, uncontrollable contributors to our lives, it is not to be taken lightly. Be prepared to take action. The next chance is your best chance.

Infinite opportunities, finite amount of time to act on each one, and never knowing the difference.

No matter how predictable an outcome, you will only ever know the results of made choices. You can never truly quantify the positive or negative implications of passing on an opportunity, but one things is certain:

In choosing to ACT ON OPPORTUNITY, success is as viable as failure, so you might as well try. 

Approval, Access, & Opportunity

This post is about: #aspirations, #opportunity, #socialdisconnect  |  Read time: 2 min

Teachers, managers, owners, bosses, coaches, parents, or other people in positions of authority, privilege, or power, are often seeking to mentor or train-in a “worthwhile” candidate. Finding a young successor helps to ensure the future existence of their world-views. It’s a legacy thing.

Many young folks seek the approval of these established persons, both for access and for opportunity.

Why is there a disconnect? Why do managers have a hard time finding good employees while there are so many employees who all desire the approval of these leaders.

To go from zero to leadership position is a tiresome process. It is not given. It is earned. It is not the snap of your fingers, it is the slow freezing of your bare hands after cleaning the gutters in 15 degree weather.

Young folks aspiring to something ‘greater’, understand the importance of these things if you want to please your superior, and eventually, become that person who masters their craft and can mentor others:

If you want approval, access, and opportunity,

There’s a level of scrutiny that you submit yourself to. Don’t be sensitive.

There’s a  level of attention to detail.

There’s a  level of necessary worry and concern.

There’s a  level of engagement.

There’s a  level of composure.

There’s a  level of initiative.

There’s a  level of IQ.

There’s a  level of responsibility.

There’s a  level of consistency.

There’s a  level of persistence.

There’s a level of growth.

There’s a  level of focus.

There is a lot required of you before you can get approval, access, and opportunity from those in the position to dish it out. So, first, decide if that’s what you really want. Then, act accordingly.