5 Quotes on the Bedroom Wall of a Mercer Basketball Player

Here are the 5 quotes that hung on handmade posters all over my bedroom for years, and are still hanging in my garage now, on the plywood wall between my stand-up work table and my pull-up bar. They may mean very little to you. They may change your life. If even one person experiences the latter, this post was worth it. I hope they spark a fire in you like they did me. After reading this, tell me your inspiring habits, I would love to read about/share them. #masteryourcraft


1. HBDYWI

How bad do you want it?

I’ve been quoting this with my little brother, James, who plays basketball at Ohio University, for years. So, maybe Eric Thomas heard me screaming it once and decided it’d be good content. I don’t know. It’s also the first tattoo James and I got together. Left hip.


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Savor a Blessing

Unless I forget to brush my teeth, each night I savor a blessing.

By attaching something that I struggle to make routine (pondering gratitude) to an act that I do every day (brushing my teeth), consistency with the latter becomes practical.

Think hard on your day for just one minute or two. How fortunate were you today? By your standards? By the standards of a homeless child? By the standards of a woman widowed by war? What blessings do you have to be thankful for? If you cannot find even one, your perspective is probably out of wack. Adjust.

Think about how wonderful a life you live, that blessings, maybe small, come daily, and rarely do you have to sacrifice comfort and convenience unless you choose to.

Some will never know the blessing of choice, or the blessing of free thought.

Revel in that while you cook dinner tonight, or during a shower, or what have you.

Brush your teeth, savor a blessing.

True Impact

Nobody ever gets an accurate reading of their contribution to the world.

Did people applaud you? Will they hold you in higher regard?

There are no hard statistics on true impact.

You’ll never see a graph or chart that depicts it.

When you die, the real imprint you’ve left behind will never be quantifiable.

How far down the line will one act of kindness go? Will the elementary school kid that you coached in hoops become an NBA star one day? Will that NBA star fund a neighborhood development program back where he grew up? Will that neighborhood produce a morally sound mother that births a world leader who eventually solves our sustainability crisis and saves the planet?

One small deed done yesterday might change the world 200 years from now, but nobody is going to give you the credit.

For generations to come, your acts of kindness, your courage, are like a stone plunging into a lake.

The initial splash depends on the size of the stone, but the real impact is in how far the ripples will span.

You’ll be at the bottom of the lake before the last wave brushes the shoreline.

There’s no glory in it for you.

Yet, oddly enough, we all know and feel that it’s the right thing to do:

to serve others.


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Love you guys,

Jakob

I have to do this

Are you a “high achiever”? A “go-getter”?

Do you have to-do lists longer than The Pan-American Highway?

Heavy eyelids?

The self-talk usually goes something like, “I want this so bad. I have to do this.”

Most people quit at this point. But you won’t. You’re an animal. You’re a machine! You’ll never quit!!

You just set the track record for the first lap of the 1600m run.

Though, hmm, nobody ever won the gold because of a fast ‘Lap 1’. Now what?

How do you follow-through on goals or drag on when you’re exhausted? Perspective always helps.

I don’t need to give you stories of the rampant poverty all over our planet.

You don’t HAVE-TO-DO anything.

You GET-TO-DO it.

That alone could be the elixir to your anxiety.

This should apply to some 90+% of Americans, as we are majorly above the poverty level in comparison to most human beings on earth.

Be the GET-TO-DO type of person.

Now, go. Do.


 

***As always, thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to read this. I only hope that I can positively impact your life in some small way.

Please, share.

As most of you know, the best way to support writing is to spread the work and engage in the wise conversations.

“Y’all” are the best. 

I love you,

Jakob

 

Get it in writing

Your boss says you might get a promotion.

A new business partnership is on the horizon.

The admissions department rep thinks you’ll get accepted to Harvard.

They can all be agreed upon, and exciting to anticipate or daydream about, but they carry no validity or value until written and signed.

Gotta get it in writing.

Getting your thoughts locked permanently into existence, and written down on paper, is as important to your life as any deal or letter of acceptance.

A great idea at 3am is meaningless if you’ve forgotten it by 8.

I cannot under-sell you on the importance of getting enough sleep, but sometimes, even when you’re laying in bed ready to fall asleep, or tossing and turning at 3:34, you’ve got to get up and grab a pen.

Got an idea?

Get it in writing.

3 THOUGHTS PER YEAR: a New Years resolution plan that sticks

Most New Years resolutions don’t stick.

Here we are, 17 days in.

If you’re struggling, it’s not too late to take a different approach. The cultural fortune and blessings, associated with proclaiming your resolutions aloud during the final countdown on December 31st, are lost. You get a 0-score for style/tradition points if you abandon your initial resolutions.

“No TRUE New Years resolution can start on January 17th!”

“Ok” [confidently brush your shoulders off].

Alas, this is a fact: a practice that works, started January 17th, is far greater than a resolution that started hot on January 1st and falls dead by January 22nd. 

Author and success expert, Carol S. Dweck, has a chapter in one of her books that talks about fulfilling your potential. In it, she writes, “Genius is not enough; we need to get the job done.” Liken that to your New Years Resolutions, and you might realize that the genius behind your initial plan is only as meaningful as the actions that (do not) ensue.

“Genius is not enough; we need to get the job done.” – Carol S. Dweck (Mindset: The New Psychology of Success).

There is no cure-all, but let me offer an idea that has helped me tremendously. Spoiler alert: this will be the only time that I downplay “taking action”.

I began this at the beginning of the 2017 year, and applied it again this year. It works. Here it is:

3 THOUGHTS PER YEAR

At the beginning of each new year, pick 3 thoughts, or topics.

WRITE THEM EVERYWHERE – walls, post it notes, desk drawers, phone background, desktop, bathroom stalls… you get the point.

They need to be extremely valuable for the upcoming year, but NOT ACTIONABLE (this seems counterintuitive, but is very important. I will explain shortly). Specifically, if it will help you most from Jan-Apr, then strongly consider it. I am a believer that the way you start dramatically influences your end results. If my 3 thoughts help me begin the year with 4 amazing months consecutively, then odds are that the last 8 won’t be too shabby either.

The purpose of these thoughts is not to formulate a one-size-fits-all action plan. The purpose is to change your overall approach. Consider it ‘mindset training’.

NEW YEARS RESOLUTIONS FAIL BECAUSE YOU PICK SPECIFIC ACTIONABLE TASKS ON DECEMBER 31st THAT ARE NO LONGER EFFECTIVE ON JANUARY 17th.

This has had a greater impact on my life than any diet, habit, or gym membership. Why? It’s about the attitude that you approach each day with. It always is. Your plan has to be able to ADAPT to looming adversity and a sporadic schedule. Your standards, however, don’t have to change.

Carry these THOUGHTS or THEMES with you everywhere, and use them the way that people use W.W.J.D. bracelets. Use these thoughts as a lens through which you see the world. Let them be a filter for your tough decisions.

Carry these THOUGHTS or THEMES with you everywhere, and use them the way that people use W.W.J.D. bracelets.

You will still be tasked with making good choices that contribute to your well-being, that is non-negotiable. The difference? You can adapt your daily action plan to your surroundings as needed. You can fail daily. You can succeed daily. But no failure or success will dictate the following day’s approach, which will change dramatically, but always contain with it, your 3 thoughts.

Reward and punishment system based on preset expectations for action, exit.

Enter, 3 THOUGHTS PER YEAR that influence your EVERY move. It becomes ok to fall down on a diet or meal plan from time to time if the goal is to “improve your Nutritional Education” rather than to “eat 100% Paleo Approved foods”. Thus, taking failure frustrations and lack of motivation out of the equation, and narrowing your focus on how to address each issue/choice individually. More simply, change 3 ways that you think about your day.

Best wishes. Love you all.

 

Here are the thoughts that I chose last year. They served me well. 

2017 – Autonomy, Nutritional Education, Fearless

Here are the thoughts that I chose for 2018. So far, so good.

2018 – Critical Path, Composure, Blue-Chip


Thanks for reading, I know this was a long post. If this helps you in any way, please, share it with your friends. Talk about your 3 words. Link them to this article as backing. The more you discuss it, the more accountability you build for yourself.

I’d love to hear stories about your resolutions, both positive and negative. Maybe I will even share some on my SM or VLOG.